Questions asked on  3/11/13

**Jaceks answers are in green**

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Hi there.

What is your name? Jacek

If you could change your name, what name would you pick? Jupiter

Why Jupiter?  Cuz I was almost named Jupiter

How old are you? 6 but 7 tomorrow.

Are you excited about being 7?  Yeah, I mean no.

Why? Cuz Daddy said I have to leave the house at 22.

What is your favorite:
cereal – peanut butter crunch
vegetable – green beans

drink – Sierra mist

toy – the Wii
TV Show –Kip Bukowski 

game –Kip Bukowski game on the iPad at school

What is your favorite book? – Llama Llama Mad At Mama
restaurant –Pizza Hut

holiday – Christmas

What about Christmas do you like?  The presents

Anything else about Christmas?Mmmm, no.

animal:  bull

Why do you like bulls? I like their horns and how they ram into things!

What do you like most about yourself? I like that I am strong.

Why? So I can beat Broady and Aidan up.

What is your favorite thing to do? Play with you

What is something you DON’T like to do? I do not like to go to bed.

What do you dream about? I don’t want to tell you.

Is it scary? Yes

What do you want to be when you are a grown up? Let’s see….a football player

If you could go anywhere you want, where would you go? Oh my god!,  to Hawaii.

What do you like most about Mommy? Your hugs and kisses
How old is your Mommy? 36? Am I right?
What is something Mom always says to you? “No playing in the parlor!”

Do you listen to that?  No.  

Why not? Cuz I forget.

How do you know your mom loves you? You hug and kiss me.. a lot!

What makes mom happy? When I listen
What makes mom sad?  When I’m mean
How does your mom make you laugh? You do silly things.

What is your moms favorite thing to do? I have no idea

What is your mom really good at? hugs and kisses
What is your mom not very good at? Let’s see…..blowing up balloons. <—he thought this was really funny

What does your mom do for her job? Work at Nothnagle..and at school…you get us money
What makes you proud of your mom? When you make dinner, lunch and sometimes breakfast
What do you and your mom do together? Have fun eating at pizza hut

Where is your mom’s favorite place to go? Home
What does Mommy do when you’re not around?  Schedule stuff

What do you like most about Daddy? I like when he plays with us and makes funny jokes
How old is your Daddy? 37

What is your Dad’s favorite food? I have no idea

How are you and Daddy the same? We don’t have dimples

How are you and your Dad different? He is older
What is Daddy’s favorite sport? Basketball

How strong is Daddy? Very strong
How do you know when Daddy is proud of you?  When he smiles and says “Good job Jacek!”

What do you like most about Aidan? He is funny

What do you like to do with Aidan?  Play games

What do you like to eat for lunch? Salami wrap

What do you wish we did more of? Play the tablet
What do you think is above the stars in the sky? Nothing but Space
Name two things you want us to do as a family on the weekend? More video games and Go to Kango

What is something you want to do that you’ve never done before? Swim

What do you want for your birthday? An Ipod

 Read Jacek’s 6th birthday interview here.

Read Jacek’s 5th birthday interview here.

Read Jacek’s 4th birthday interview here.

These birthday interviews are always the same or very similar questions and are done a day or two before an upcoming birthday.

This is Aidan’s second one.  You can find last year’s here.

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Interview with Aidan Laurence Brennan

Interview started 8/10/12 – Finished 8/11/12

Aidan’s answers are in blue

Hi there.

What is your name? Um, Aidan Laurence Brennan Kwiatkowski!!

If you could change your name, what name would you pick?
Like, Jacek….(giggling)

Why Jacek?
Cuz I like Jacek

How old are you?  7

You’re seven?  Yep.

I thought you were 3?

I’m not 3, I’m 7!

How old are you going to be on your birthda? Um, six

Aren’t you going to be 4?

Y E S!!

Are you excited about being 4?
Yeah

Why?

Cuz I like it.

What is your favorite:
cereal – Pops  (corn pops)
vegetable – broccoli

drink – Yoda Soda (these were Capri Suns with Yoda Soda labels I made for Jacek’s 6th birthday)

toy – Batmans
TV Show – Wii

game – Mario Kart

What is your favorite book? – train books
restaurant – Pizza ones

holiday – Halloween

What about Halloween do you like?  Cuz I like all the scary persons.

animal – Dinosaurs

Why do you like dinosaurs?  Cuz they are very awesome. 

What do you like most about yourself? I like my Aidan sounds.

Why? Because I like them so much.

What sounds?  Cuz I make dinosaur sounds.

What is your favorite thing to do? When we read books.

What is something you DON’T like to do? I don’t like getting shots.

What do you dream about? I dream about dinosaurs.

Is that scary? Yes

What do you want to be when you are a grown up? I want to do dishes. 

If you could go anywhere you want, where would you go?  Mcdonalds.

What do you like most about Mommy? I like Mommy to hug.
How old is your Mommy?  Um. 6
What is something Mom always says to you? “We need to go somewhere”

How do you know your mom loves you? Cuz you love me so much

But how do you know?  you hug me.  A lot!

What makes mom happy? When I hug you
What makes mom sad? When I hurt JJ.
How does your mom make you laugh?  You tickle me

What is your moms favorite thing to do? Like, play a game.

What is your mom really good at?  You’re good at playing games
What is your mom not very good at?  Not good at playing outside

What does your mom do for her job? Um, you do dishes.
What makes you proud of your mom? Cuz I say when I say when you say, Um….when you say I need to go anywhere
What do you and your mom do together? do games

Where is your mom’s favorite place to go? Go to football
What is Mommy going to do while you’re at school?  Still be here.

Doing what?  Doing dishes

(GETTING RESTLESS!)

What do you like most about Daddy? I like his hugs
How old is your Daddy?  Um. 7

What is your Dad’s favorite food? Um. Chicken.  A lot of chicken

How are you and Daddy the same?  We have the same ideas.

How are you and your Dad different? I’m little and he’s big
What is Daddy’s favorite sport?  Um. Footballl!

How strong is Daddy?  Um. He is very strong.
How do you know when Daddy is proud of you?  Cuz he makes me laugh

What do you like most about Jacek?  He plays with me

What do you like to do with JJ? Play not wake up Daddy (board game)
What do you like to eat for lunch?  Jelly and peanut butter

What do you wish we did more of? Um. Video.
What do you think is above the stars in the sky?  Um.  Planets
Name two things you want us to do as a family on the weekend? Um.  Play Leapsters and other games

What is something you want to do that you’ve never done before?  (He struggled with this one and got all upset. Really upset.)

I don’t want to do anything.

Why?

Cuz I don’t want to get bigger.

What do you want for your birthday?  I want balloons and cards.

 An amazing little brother

a wonderful ray of SON

 and Mommy’s not so little anymore Goober-butt.

Happy 4th birthday…to you!

And there it was, an email about a hallway, lined with doors that were marked with either a Q or an A.

Questions or answers, which do you seek?

I was befuddled.  Was the timing of the email purely coincidence?

Do things really happen for a reason?

I imagined myself in that very hallway standing between the two doors having to make a choice.

The Q and the A engraved onto the outsides, tracing the outline of the letters with my finger, feeling the weight of the wood and my decision.

I reach to touch the handle of the A door because everyone wants answers right?

With answers I think I would feel happy, full of comfort and understanding at last, right?

Maybe I would feel content or would I still be unsatisfied?

Then I stop, realizing there is a choice to make but why is there even a choice?

Q or A?

Answers fill you, Questions open you.(John Basil, Will Power)

It brought back a saying I remember hearing my parents say and that I’ve used a time or two in my lifetime,

“Don’t answer a question with a question”.

Why shouldn’t we?

Questions are good, without the answers to go with them they open us, they get us to explore our minds, our hearts, our soul.

When did I become so focused on wanting only answers?

Children go through a phase, where they are inquisitive and ask a hundred questions a day and when you answer them they immediately ask an even bigger question.  They are an endless sea of questions.

Some where along the way our inquisitive nature gets overcome by our search for answers.

Do we already have the answers and it’s really all about asking the right questions?

Maybe it’s really about feeling satisfied at the end of the day.

Answers make us feel like we’ve accomplished something because it’s something marked with a period.

But perhaps asking questions can give us a similar feeling.

There is no end to them just a continued ever expanding hallway of doors and rooms beyond to explore.

Questions or answers?

Which door would you open?

“Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah!!!” he screeched from the back seat.

I got a 10 pack of timbits for Aidan and Jacek to share, figuring they would have a few today and the rest tomorrow morning.

I passed the box of timbits behind me to Aidan and told him that he could have 3.

Before heading home I looked back at him and held up 3 fingers, “Aidan, only eat 3 okay?”

He held up 3 fingers, “OKAY!”

Fairly close to home he declares that he’s “all done” and hands the box back up to me.

“Aidan!  You ate 5!  I said you could only eat 3!”

“Oh…..”

“Did you forget how many 3 was?” I said, holding 3 fingers up again for him to see.

Silence.

“Aidan?”

“Aidan, are you going to say anything about eating 5 instead of 3?”

“Um..I think my fingers don’t know how to count.”

“Do you feel like there is a point? Do you have a purpose?”

It was asked during and again after a pretty major personal conflict.

When I first responded my words came quickly.

Since then those two questions have been swimming all over my thoughts.

Questions of this magnitude are owed the contemplation.

So I will eventually write more.

For now, here are my initial thoughts.

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“Yes I do feel there is a point to living but unfortunately I can not present it to you as a grand plan or a greater purpose type of idea.

I am spiritual not religious.  I do not believe that when we die there is something greater then what we already have waiting for us (in life).

I’m almost certain that when we die we are just no longer living. Dead.  Sometimes stuff happens that makes me think maybe there is another “side” to life but I have no proof besides feelings to support that thought.

I can more easily tell you what my purpose is NOT then I can tell you what it is.

Sometimes I think that maybe we won’t realize our actual purpose until we lay in our coffins at our own funerals and our loved ones speak about us and how we did actually matter and why.

That’s why I like funerals.  Because even though they are sad and final it sheds light on the purpose of that persons life.  I think some would call that, perspective.

So, I think about life from a backwards point of view.  I am dead.  It is my funeral.  Who has the courage and the strength to get up before my family and friends and acquaintances to share a memory about me?  What would they say?

Our purpose in life may not be for us to determine or to strive towards.  It may just be something that happens along the way.  We may never know what it was because no one gushes on and on about one another until they are dead, and they are gone, and it’s too late to say, “Hey, thank you for never giving up on me.  You really made me think I could do these impossible things.  You really helped me stand up for myself and use the voice I never realized I had.  You really changed my life.”

 I try to live my life keeping that perspective.  I want random people that I may have forgotten over the years to show up to my funeral and gush to my family that I said something or did something, wrote something, sang something that stuck with them, maybe changed them, helped them, etc.

I want to make people smile, laugh and have fun.  I want to be memorable.  Sometimes I only feel forgettable.

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We are taught as teenagers to believe that it doesn’t matter what other people think about you but as we get older I think that’s a total crock of shit.

It does matter what other people think about you.  It does matter how you make other people feel. 

I think my purpose has a whole lot more to do with “them” then it does with me.“

After 15 years without you I was thinking today might feel more like just April 23rd but I was wrong.

Time is never going to change that today is the day you died.

I’m writing because you have been around me lately and I’m trying to figure out why.

It worries me because I don’t think you would linger if you were just saying hello.

You would only be staying for “a little bit” if you had something you wanted to chat about..

So, there’s that and there’s also the fact that it’s been snowing today which would have completely pissed you off, making you shake your head in disbelief as you watched the heavy snow crush your newly pruned bushes.

“I just mowed the lawn yesterday, isn’t this something?”
“Can you believe it?”
“Snow in April”

It makes me miss you all the more, this random spring snow, because you would have been enlightening us with your witty-isms chosen especially to express your disdain.  You were always colorful when you were upset and so beautifully inappropriate.

I like to believe I got a little bit of my own rainbow from you.

You have been here and there and all around these last few weeks.  Mentally, I’ve been struggling a little bit so maybe you’re hanging around to make sure I’m riding it out okay.

Fifteen years ago I had no idea who I was or what I wanted and when I complained you used to tell me to “just figure things out”.

You also tried to convince me to always carry a wooden bat around with me because, as you said, you could never be certain if someone was just walking behind you or if they were following you.

Perfectly sound advice.

There are always long stretches of time when I feel I have “just figured things out” but they are often chased by albeit brief, moments of feeling like I have entirely no idea if what I am doing is really want I want to be doing.

For weeks now I’ve wanted to write a final post and to take a break from my blog but your presence or whatever it is I have been feeling kept me from doing it.

Then today I felt urged to write for you and as soon as I started this letter I realized how incredibly off balance I had become from and with my writing.

Disconnected.

And the realization made me miss you and words terribly.

So, I cried a lot today, today the day you died 15 years ago and I wrote some words for you.

At dinner I told the boys that I was missing you, my Grandpa.
Jacek said he thinks you watch us and that it must make you happy to see us smile.

“He watches us Mommy.  They all do.”

I love you Grand-pea and I hear you loud and clear.

“Just figure things out.”

I will do just that.

With all my love,

Your Granddaughter

Kerri-Lynn

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STAR WARS BIRTHDAY PARTY

drink and candy station

complete with Yoda Soda, Jedi Juice and Vaderade

Swedish Fish, Almond Joy pieces, Cookies & Cream Kisses and Whoppers

Storm Trooper Cheese Head

2 packages of Neufchatel, 1 packet of dry ranch dressing mix and a cup or so of shredded monterey jack cheddar cheese mix.

Black olives were used for the mask detail

Yoda-dilla: Spinach wraps, sour cream, shredded chicken and sharp cheddar cheese

Black olives for the eyes

Darth Vader Taters:  Simple as a bag of Tater Tots

Sweet & Salty Sabers : pretzel rods wrapped in strawberry fruit roll up; so yummy

Yoda Soda: Cream Soda and Strawberry Crush

Jedi Juice: Capri Sun

Decorated by hand Darth Maul Cake

*Not pictured*

Jar Jar Links in a Blanket: Turkey dog pieces wrapped in crescent rolls

Home made Happy Birthday Jacek banner(s)

Theme colors were red, black and light blue

 Thanks to Pinterest and Kitchen Fun with My Three Sons for most of the party ideas

Jacek turned 6 on March 12.

Questions asked on March 13, 2012

Jaceks answers are in GREEN*

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Hi there.

What is your name?  Jacek

If you could change your name, what name would you pick?  Jupiter, no…ah ah, yeah Jupiter

Why Jupiter?  Because you almost called me Jupiter.

How old are you?  5, I mean 6!!

Are you excited about being 6? YESSSSS!

Why?  Cause I get to do new things that when I was 5 I couldn’t do.

Like What?  Uh, eat Bubble Gum and get a watch

(I let him try bubble gum on his birthday, he spit it out after 2 chews)

What is your favorite:
cereal – cinnamon cereal
vegetable – I don’t really have a favorite.
drink – Apple Juice
toy – My DARTH MAUL LIGHT SABER
TV Show – I don’t have a favorite
game - Uh, the new football Wii game
book – Winnie The Pooh I spy book
restaurant – Mcdonalds
holiday -Christmas, no my birthday. (giggling)

What do you like about Christmas?  How many presents I get.
From who? Santa

animal – Cheetah

What do you like most about yourself? Myself? Um, that I’m very tall

Why? Cause I can do new things

Like what?  Um, play basketball

What is your favorite thing to do? Play the Wii.

What is something you DON’T like to do? I don’t like to do? Me don’t like to stay inside.

What do you dream about? Star Wars
Is that scary? The one I’m dreaming about, yes. Cause Darth Maul doesn’t get killed

What do you want to be when you are a grown up? A football player

If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?  Africa
What would you do there?  I would watch for kangaroos or something.

What do you like most about Mommy? You sometimes let me play the Wii
How old is Mommy? 34
What is something Mom always says to you? That you love me
How do you know your mom loves you? Hug and kiss

What makes mom happy? Me hugging you

What makes mom sad? When I don’t hug you
How does your mom make you laugh?  When you do silly jokes
What is your moms favorite thing to do? Go to Kango
What is your mom really good at? Running
What is your mom not very good at?  Playing basketball.  I can beat you up if we played.
What does your mom do for her job? Work.  Work for money.
But what are my jobs?  I don’t know what it’s called

What makes you proud of your mom? When you hug me
What do you and your mom do together? Go on dates sometimes
Where is your mom’s favorite place to go? I don’t know.  Kango?  Stores? MCC?
What does Mommy do while you’re at school?  I don’t know cause I’m not there

What do you like most about Daddy? He plays with me.
How old is your Daddy? 36
What is your Dad’s favorite food? I don’t know. Pasta?
How are you and your Dad the same? Our feet are both big
How are you and your Dad different? Our hair. He trims his and I don’t trim mine
What is Daddy’s favorite sport?  Football…no Basketball, basketball!
How strong is Daddy? Verrrry strong
How do you know when Daddy is proud of you? “You’re doing a good job!”

What do you like most about Aidan? He plays with me!!
What do you like to do with Aidan? play light sabers
When you get really silly you:  LAUGH!!
What do you like to eat for lunch at school?  Pizza
What do you wish we did more of? Played the Wii
What do you think is above the stars in the sky?  the sun, the moon, I don’t know, clouds?
Name two things you want us to do as a family on the weekend
go to Kango and go to Kango

Two different things…
Kango and Play the Wii

What is one new thing you’d like to try this year?  Football

What are you wishing for this year?   To play that football game on the Wii

You can find Jacek’s interview from last year, HERE

and the previous year, HERE.

The night before your birthday when I was tucking you in bed I was joking about having to say good-bye to the “five-year old Jacek”.  You insisted that you’d still be the same boy when you woke, just six instead of five.  I teased I would miss the “five-year old Jacek” and you rolled your eyes at me.

The thing is, you aren’t the same little boy you were last year and that “five-year old Jacek” really was gone when you woke up on your birthday morning.

You are now a six year old boy with your own agenda who is becoming increasingly independent and driven.

Kindergarten has been so good for you.

I love going in and spending time with you and your friends.

You are truly in your element there and your teacher always praises you, which I can’t get enough of.

I love observing you and witnessing your natural leadership because it is so incredible.

At home you still are willing to help out but have begun to share your opinion when asked to do something you’re not particularly fond of.

This isn’t very helpful to Mommy but I secretly enjoy the fuss you make over things being boring, “not fair” or something you just don’t want to do.

You are beginning to find your voice and that makes me incredibly happy and proud.

It shows me how assertive, honest and stubborn you are.

Knowing that you will speak up for yourself and voice your opinion helps me feel a little more secure sending you out on your own every day.

Good thing you are also sweet and thoughtful though because this newly found assertiveness tires me out!

I am sure you are thinking something along the lines of, turning six is so much better then five which is so very true from your perspective and I want you to enjoy every minute.

From my perspective though, six just seems so much older then five.

My Munchkin Man is not so munchkin any more.

Everything inside you is changing and I see those changes every day in how you act, react, behave, listen, rebel, talk, play and look.

You are curious and hungry for knowledge (and food, you never stop eating!).

At times your world is all you seem to know and the only place you want to be but sometimes you share it with me.

I think you realize it doesn’t always make sense to me but you still share it anyways.

You are generous like that.

You’re learning all about yourself, what you like, how you think, what’s right or wrong, what feels good, what doesn’t;  you are so busy.

You amaze, frustrate and inspire me..sometimes all at once.

My advice to you today, on your sixth birthday is to keep asking questions, especially the ones that everyone else is afraid to for those are the ones we really need answers to.

Keep your heart open and always listen to me, okay?

Even if you don’t always do what I ask or completely understand, please just listen.

I promise you the very same.

Happy Birthday my boy.

With all my love and more.

Mom.